Warren Barfield - Love Is Not A Fight

TRUST

What is trust? Reliance on another person or entity. Its opening up to people hoping that they will not take the advantage of your openness. someone said trust is like giving someone a gun and hoping that they won’t pull the trigger, well trust is special but I have to say once broken can never be recovered, I can also say :- Trust is earned, never given. You can’t trust anyone. It takes a true friendship  to build, but a fake little lie to tear down.

When someone doesn’t trust you then I can say that is not a good relationship because any relationship not based on trust is false. For instance in a love relationship, if you don’t trust you partner then the relationship is meant not to last, this is because if he or she acts in a strange manner even if he or she is not guilty you will always think he or she is, and that is bad for any relationship. That applies even to a business relationship, if a client doesn’t trust you for whatever reason they are bound to not work with you, because they know the business won’t run smoothly with some doubts involved. I believe trust is the most important strength in any relationship and that if you break that then you can never bring back the trust.

 We have different kinds of people; we have people who can give you their trust but once you lose the trust they won’t be able to tolerate you, but we have also the other kind who will give you their trust and once you lose it they might forgive you and you might start again, well that is rare and if you get that then you are one of the lucky beings around.

One thing you should always put in mind is that you should always trust yourself first in order to trust other people, another thing you should also know is you can trust other people but don’t put your all trust in it because no one is perfect and human beings are prone to do mistakes. So more often than not you will find people hurting you or breaking your trust, and then it will be easier for you to forgive them if you didn’t give them 100% trust. Myself I trust everyone I just don’t trust the devil inside them, which is the same thing as not trusting anyone, Well things are complicated that’s why we live.

Change

Life has really changed; and this is a good thing but to others it’s a nightmare. Some of the people have changed with the age while others are still left with the old way of living. There is this term that people normally say, “We are living in the .com era, while our folks lived in the p.o.box era!” wow, that was creative, but we have people who can’t change with the age, which is not a bad thing but can be very tricky at times.

We have positive and negative changes, thus I tend to think a change is a change no matter how small it is, its still change, and people should embrace the changes and choose which changes will suite their lifestyles, other than hiding in one bracket saying that the new Era can be lethal to them. Well many people tend to have the fear of the unknown.

For instances our mode of dressing has really changed, basically u can’t compare the mode of dressing today with what people used to wear in the 80’s, We are having women walking comfortably in bikinis and hot pants while earlier on it was a taboo and such a woman could be a disgrace to the community. Some of these changes are really affecting some of our people thus making it hard for them to adapt.

I went to the supermarket the other day and found out that we have canned food, readymade food in cans, so nowadays u don’t need to go and cook, we have everything ready for us we just warm with the microwave or heat with the cooking gas. Wow that’s a plus for some people, but earlier on we used to get raw food from the shamba n we used to cook with a jiko or a ‘stove’. It was kinda fun but now things are simplified for us.

For instance most of the machines that we use today i.e. computers, coffee makers, ATM’s, just to name but afew have been updated thus they make our work easier,  so a person might have problems using this Machines if he has no experience with them

A bird in hand is worth two in the bush, I think change is good thus, All what we can do is pray the serenity prayer. God grant me the serenity to change the things that I cannot change, knowledge to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference.